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Keep Calm and Love Yourself

Quite a number of my friends have been posting on facebook about how ''being curvy is better than being skinny''. They go on about curves having its natural allure while 'skinny like sticks' aren't as interesting to look at.

I know a lot of things people posts on facebook aren't for the world to know, but it is more of a self confirmation. Posting something like ''I don't care what people think about the way I dress'' is actually implying otherwise. Because the truth is, if one truly doesn't care, she would not have posted that. So I understand that all the posts on curves vs. skinny are probably people learning of self acceptance and self loving. Which is good, actually. I have always wished that I have that kind of self confidence.

However, I feel that it isn't right for them to be posting about being curvy is better than being skinny. Everyone thinks that being curvy and 'big' is a problem while being skinny isn't one. But truth is, everyone has issues. I have tons of skinny friends who tries to gain weight but they just can't. And it hurts them. To always having to wear belts, getting themselves push up bras. Being curvy and skinny both has their perks and nots. Though however, it is true that society is more acceptable of being skinny than being curvy. It's shown in movies, books, advertisments, magazines, clothes stores. Being curvy is harder than being skinny, but that does not give one the right to compare the two like that. Because the truth is, to a lot of people, being too fat or too thin hurts the same.

What my friends on facebook should be posting is ''All shapes and sizes are beautiful'' or more along that line. This not only shows self-acceptance and love for thy own body, but also accepting others and love for other people, no matter the sizes and shape. There is no hatred, there is no need to compare. There is enough judging going around in the world, we don't need to bring that down here too.

It is a problem when your weight affects your health. Like how being obese makes it difficult to get around, and you tire easily. The same for being too thin, there isn't enough energy to get you through the day. Then that is when you do something about it. But if you feel fine, then you are fine. It isn't about the way you look, bottomline is, it's about your health.

Forget the judging, forget the trend.

Remember the meals. Remember the exercises.

But most importantly,
remember to love yourself.

Now, if only I can practice what I preach.

30th Jan 2013

Different people have different likes and dislikes. We are all genetically engineered to be different. And that's okay. Different is good. Everyone doesn't have to be the same. Where's the fun in that? Though it is wrong to impose your likes and dislikes on others. It is also wrong to consider your likes and dislikes as superior to others and put them down.

The thing is that as you grow up, you meet people from all different walks of life. We are all growing up, moulding into who we are suppose to be. With every decision we make, every road we take, it plays a part in the person you turn out to be.

If you're a nerd, or an active person, if you're sociable, traditional, pious or whatever. Moderation is always the key, I suppose. But that's your own personal goal. You get to decide on who you want to be. Everyone else just have to live with that.

I know I'm probably not making any sense to you, but I make perfect sense to me. And thus, my answer is no.

And that's okay.

Sunshine

I realised that I have been very hard on myself these past couple of years. I put high expectations and when I don't meet them, I would give myself a very hard time. The thoughts that run through my head, of not being good enough , of not being worthy, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not helpful enough. I never take the time to thank myself for all the good things I am.

And all I see in other people are the good things. Which is good, because my mind just seems to skip past all the other things. I like the way I view people. Of their wonderful character, good nature, lovely voice and all that. But then the judging in me comes, and I put myself way below anybody else.

I am now learning to forgive myself for everything I am not. It is okay to fail, once in a while. It is okay to make mistakes, to hurt other people on accident, to screw up. But what's not okay is holding myself accountable and making myself feel like I have to be punnished for every wrongdoings in my life. I find it easy to forgive people, but very hard to forgive myself. And this time, I am going to work on myself, to feed myself positivity and take awway the negativity. It's tirering and it drains your soul. I don't want to be that anymore.

I am going to try to be the sunshine, for myself.

The choices you make for yourself may alienate some people from your circle and life. But if that decision is what makes you happy in this life, try to not let the guilt of making someone walk away override the magnitude of the happiness that choice will bring. Be it now or in the near future. 

Things happen for a reason. People come and go for a reason. It is what shapes life. And you.

Hello 2013

Reading all the new year's posts on Facebook made me realise how I don't feel much about it. It's just another day, another year of the many years to come. It's a fixed cycle (unless another 'apocalypse' comes up) and because it is inevitable, I feel so indifferent about it.

But I have to agree with the start of the new year, there is just this enormous feeling of hope. Hope for better things, hope for change. I guess it's because of the whole 'NEW'. Everyone's posting new years resolution and I can also recall having posted mine on this blog the last new year. Haven't accomplished much from THOSE resolutions but have experienced much more.

I really want this year to be different. Something about turning 21 this year marks a huge transition. It isn't like any other age, but this is significant. No, wait, every age is significant. I don't know, turning 21 is just special. No, not the birthday party or the 'key'. More like the beginning of adulthood. The twenties.

So I really want 2013 to be different. But then again, I wished that for 2012 too. And 2011.

Okay, I should really stop contradicting myself.

I will try my best to make this year count.